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Episode · 1 year ago

Change is Coming

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In today's episode, we are discussing how your diet can contribute to estrogen dominance.  We talk about friendships and how having a support system is so key to women. Lynette shares a sneak peek into her book https://www.amazon.com/Change-Coming-Holistic-Menopause-Andropause-ebook/dp/B07MZGHFJG/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=change+is+coming%2C+lynette&qid=1615751929&sr=8-1 (ps I tell you  how you can get a free copy) Join Lynette on Instagram @connect_to_source for her wisdom and support!

Hello and welcome to the what women want today podcast. You might be asking yourself right about now. Well, what do women want? I mean we're pretty complex creatures right. Well, I think we weren't it all, and I'm here to export with you. My name is Harry Kellum's I'm your host. Go grab your favorite beverage. I've already got my glass of wine, and let's get started. Hello, hello, and welcome to what women want today. Friends, today I have a special guest on the podcast with me. Her name is Lynnette Sadler and I'm so excited for all of the information that y'all are going to hear from Lynette today. Lenette, welcome to the show. Thank you so much for being here today. How are you? Hi, hi, sorry, thank you for having me. I'm good, I'm yeah, I had a busy day, so I'm kind of winding down now and I'm kind of very happy to, you know, be invited onto your podcast and I'm quite looking forward to those sharing some nuggets with you. And Yeah, that's some I know. Good, good. I know all of the listeners are going, oh my goodness, at accent. Where is she from? She is from London in England. Oh, yes, and when we talked a little bit at the beginning of our time together today that you are six hours ahead of where I met. So it's around six PM your time. Correct. Correct, yes, it's the evening. So I'm all winding down and, yeah, Getting Ready Tom a lot because we've got snow. Oh, it's been snowing all day, so I've been getting indoors and keeping warm. You know, crazy. I'm not one for the snow. I like it warm. So I think I'm in the wrong country. Me To the net, I moved to Arizona, which is the desert in in two thousand and ten and I will never move back to somewhere where there's snow all the time. I I'm not cut out for it. I need the sunshine, small move. That's what I need to do. I make them enjoin you. You're welcoming to join you. Definitely. So I guess I don't really know a whole lot about life in London. Are are women open to talking about their bodies, their feelings? Did you discuss pregnancy with your closest girlfriend? What was that like? In my friendship group, yes, because we are quite outspoker. Then we do like share, you know, things like intimacy with our friends. So we're not shy when it comes to that. Definitely not in London, but maybe a lot of parts of the country where people are a lot more reserved than I guess that I really talk about, you know, and think of that nature, about pregnancy. Apart from the basics off generally know me and my girlfriend's we talked about our emotions, we talk about things that are happening in our lives and yeah, we're very open. Yeah, the wild. I used to call us so white, the wild bunch, but I've definitely a time down quite a lot of size the tool. Well, I've I feel like you're very lucky because I don't know that every woman has that. So that's just awesome. So just sorry, no, you go ahead of going to say it's quite unfortunate, because I think is is women get to be older, you know, as you mature, you have different responsibilities, you have different commitments and so, you know, sometimes you end up losing your friendship route. But I'm done quite lucky. I've got quite a few friends that I still connect with, you know, since you know, I went to school, so that's been really good. Yeah, I agree with that. I feel like, especially for someone who moves, you know, later in life like I did.

I think I was like forty two maybe when I moved to Arizona. You know, you make a lot of your friends either at work or, you know, friends that you grew up with. And as our kids get older, they're not involved in school activities and we're not meeting people through that type of thing. Yeah, it's it gets a little bit harder to maintain those friendships, doesn't it? Correct definitely, and I mean for me also. I think I moved to London because I was in the country. I was born in a little town called Derby in the Midlands, which is central England and is quite a talent. So when I moved to London I was kind of super excited, but I did miss my friends and it take me a while to meet you on and I met them through work and I met them through university as well, when I did, you know, further studies. So and I've managed to maintain a few. I say that's been really good. So yeah, it kind of cuts out the loneliness. It helps you feel connected to what's happening around you in society and so you know you don't you know what's your children grow up and they're off university as well, then you kind of left on your own if you haven't forged friendships. And so I just think it's really important to each stage of your life that you know, you connect with people, you know stuck out of your comfort zone and meet New People, because you never know you but you may end up, maybe, you know, meeting them any best friend for life and the well need that. We do need that and change is good. Really definitely a crew that. Yeah, and just so the listeners can kind of relate to who you are in our conversation, do you mind if I ask you a couple of personal questions? Okay, okay, has I think we care. What's she going to ask me? Sorry, you married? No, not anymore. I was okay, in children, I have to and they're in the S now. So, yeah, they've got their own lives. So, yes, I'm single at the moment, but I am looking. So you know construction Sam for a while. Did you do the on living everybody else? Yes, lockdown, everything's online. I wasn't it. It is, it is. That's how I met my husband because I was divorced prior to and we met online and that's a whole nother story. But so and then my final, very personal, nosy question is and your age. Do you mind the first cold you are? Oh No, I don't mind. Share my age at all. And fifty six. Now fifty seven to see. I'm fifty seven in May. Fifty seven years young. Yes, yes, yeah, yeah, definitely. Do you remember how old you were when peery Menopauz began? I would say for me, I think I'll see my s I think we definitely rested. So I started to experience like hot flashes which I thought, you know, what's going on here, and I never for once thought it was very menopause. I would kind of person when I was a lot younger, I often buried my head in the sand and anything that had, you know, that look like eging. I was totally in denial, but I didn't know. I didn't know I was Verry memorables. Didn't understand the cravings that I had. I didn't understand that I was getting irritable. I was very moody and I put it down to everything other than very MENA pause. So you took a while. It took a while. I quite a few health problems and that's when I found out I was going through. But sorry, prymno pause. I had five roids. Okay, yes, I had five broids. So I had really heavy, like...

...men'struation. My eyeron was really low. I mentioned irritability as well. My stomoke really swallowed, you know, always swelled to the point I look like I was five, six months pregnant and that, yeah, and then the heaviness that you've you know, you feel because you've got the five boys and I had SIS and varying sister as well, which ended up with me losing and my left overy. So that was kind of a frustrating period and I was really depressed for quite a while and it wasn't until I a messor with a natural path and that's that got me on to the January I am today. But I found that but a lot of what I was eating, the foods I was eating, that was it's real good to some of the symptoms that I was having and causing my win bones flushy white. So yes, so hmm. And so do you know about how long it was between the time that you started, Perry, and then until the you know, the twelve month mark of not having a menstror cycle anymore. No, no, if I was to kind of reflect back, I'll probably say probably about eight years. MMM, possibly eight, maybe longer, but I'd say around eight years when I was having all these problems with my health. MMM. You know, I just I love the fact that we met on social media. It because it proves that if not only connect you with people that you already know, but kind of opens the world up to make new social connections. And as I was searching on Instagram for other women talking about menopause, what drew me to you was a perspective I believe we both share, and that is is why are we talking about this more do you? Do you think women feel shameful about menopause? Hundred percent, very much, very much shameful about menopause and I think it's more about societies, prejudices and a lot of myths about menopause. And and it really is quite sad, you know, quite saddening when you think about it, because you know it's said, it really is a says that every woman's going to go through, everyone going to go she as out of your female and you live until you your s at some point you're going to enter into menopause and you know, you read things about you know she's past it. You know she's no longer attractive or relevant, some things of that nature. You know, and in our youth idealized culture where everything's about being youthful, women feel, you know, kind of pressured to keep heart and if they can't, as shy away. And your body's changing. You know you have low libido, you're putting a weight, you know things, things are not as fame as they used to be, I'll put it that way. And and you just don't feel yourself anymore. is if your body's been taken over by some kind of alien or something. You know, you when you don't. You don't feel yourself anymore and you're frustrated. And then you know, and if you're in a relationship, you know that's going to impact on your relationship if you're feeling moody or not feeling yourself anymore. And, as I mentioned, your the Bidos low as well. So you're going to feel as if you're not actually satisfying your partner because you don't really feel if you want to go down, you know, to our sex with them. So you know, I just think that people are quite mean when it comes to menopause, you know, even the work. You know, if you're I don't for me when I have my hot flash at work, and you know, it was I think it was even November. I actually do remember that day. I was sitting in the office. It's cold outside, it's November, and I get this hot, you know, feeling coming over me. I think that's in my my mad maid's fad...

...and forty, sorry me to like but before it is six, I think I was. And I'm there, you know, fanning myself at the desk and I opened the window and every once, you know, frown you like me, giving me frosty looks off to say it's las he's crazy. Why she opening the window? And young them, they're loosening my blouse and and that was me of my hot flash and I thought, oh my God, it's come back against I had. I remember, my God, he went away for a while after. I see the national path, which I'm going to a bit more, but you know, I was there the flashing myself, you know, got my report off the desk and that's funny in a way. You know, thinking, Oh my God, it's really warm in here and then, you know, someone shouted across the office, you know, close that bloody window, the window, and I okay, and then it disappeared. And that then the ways. You know that the little dots about all you know, I was Lina have not, you know. You know, she's getting better at now, and I actually, you know, felt quite resentful of by going through them win a port. I thought, my God, I'm getting all them what you young and you know, I didn't feel like me anymore. So, you know, yeah, all these these prejudices flying around and we were not wanting to talk about it because, you know, the symptoms of brain fall and forget fullness and poor concentration. That subtly me no professional women. They start to feel in aatequate at work and you know, and they don't want to have to go to their moneagers and fare all well. You know, I think I'm menopause or you know, because people just make jokes about it, you know, and it is similarly like with men. You know, men, they did. Some men go through the Andrew Pauses, as we're beginning to find out. And you know, it is so hush harsh, even more so than many pals that nobody actually wants to talk about it, and that's why I think I put one or two postal reasonly on instagram just to say hello men, you know, you do go through something similar to and you know, if you're having particular symptoms, which are not too far different from menopause in fact, that men go through, you know you need to look at, you know, your text fosterone levels, because that could have triggered to your weight gain or for you getting man or for your spank shortening and that kind of thing. So, you know, it's scary and old. It's just something that people mock in this kind that's why I say love when I see women who are empowered and they're standing up for themselves and they're going out there, they're creating a new way of life, they're trying out different things and they created new chapters in their lives and I just so love to see women do that. You know, make them may go off and study something only new and start a new Korea. You know, they might say excite to move to a new town. You know, just out there they're still going to clubs, some of them, you know, starting new hobbies and that kind of thing. So when I see women being empowered and, you know, taking back the rains of control from whatever is happening in their family or in their personal relationships with their dogs and going out there and they're just being vibrant and excited loving life. Those are the kind of people that I'm definitely attracted to in and I do have quite a few friends, you know, in their late fifty and sixties who are that way and I see them as my role models because, hard as they concern, they made there in menopause because, as we know, when the pause, once you got into menopause, that's it. Yeah, you real you're in it until forever. And say well, go out there, and they don't champion it, and I just love that. You know, they're so inspiring and motivating and those are the kind of people ass around myself with. Yeah, I couldn't agree more, one hundred percent, one hundred percent. So, yeah, I find it very interesting that I remember back in my you know early, early young adulthood, when...

I was having babies and I had friends that were about the same age and we were all having babies around the same time. We talked about everything. Talked about heartburn and morning sickness, and stretch marks, and then after the birth of the baby, we talked about all that too, you know. I mean there was no detail left on turned but but yeah, I did notice that that is, you know, as I've gotten older. I don't know if it's because I just felt like I was complaining or if I was trying to hide it. Sometimes I think I was trying to hide it because, you know, I've always been sort of a non confrontational type person and a people pleaser in someone who doesn't like, you know, I don't like to be at odds with people or arguments or whatever. So I kind of tended to bite my tongue more often than not and I kind of didn't want to be, you know, like an instigator or an aggravator of an unpleasant conversation or unpleasant topic, and so I think I just kind of started keeping it more to myself. And, you know, I'd quite the journey. My mom did not talk about menopause and and so I had very little knowledge going into this and I think I just was on this like self discovery, this personal journey, and then one day it just sort of like came to me that, you know, women aren't talking about this and we're suffering alone, and I don't think that's the way we should be going about it. I love the attitude that you're friends here, that you just mentioned, that this is a new time in our lives. I mean we can look at this as a, you know, negative thing and say, Oh God, you know, I'm getting older and all these things are happening to my body, or we can look at it as, oh my gosh, I'm an empty Nester, my kids are grown, I don't have as much responsibility at taking care of them anymore. I can start focusing on me and figuring out what it is that I want out of the rest of my life, and it's exciting. It's exciting if you let it be. I agree, I a hundred percent to grace. Is Definitely about your mindset and and how you and how you perceive yourself and how you and where you see yourself fit fitting in the world. So it is definitely about how you think and how you feel about yourself as well, because initially, you know, I felt I embarrassed to be fat, to say that I had reached first page of my life, because I think and I believe I look a lot younger and I just didn't want, you know, you pull off in at me, because that is what people do when they're going through menopause. Like I mentioned earlier, they do like to mock and Te's and, you know, make light of lace, and I just think that, you know, it's really unfair and I think the more of us that speak about the it will be a more acceptable to have a regular conversation without nobody giving you a fun and look or anything like that. So I just think, you know, we do need to you know, starting from the rooftops. Well, maybe, I know, not being embarrassed about it, I don't think. Yeah, so what started? I know you have a book and I want it, you know, before we end today. I want to make sure they're being also were to find it and I'll put a link in the show notes. But tell me a little bit because I'm so interested in the pivots in women's lives. You know, as we go through life, I sort of noticed like different moments of pivoting and I was just really curious as to what started you on the path to writing a book. Well, I don't mentioned earlier when I was in Perryman of pause and I had a lot of health problems and I was fortunate enough to be introduced to a natural path and he assessed me, looked at my lifestyle, to what I was eating, sleep patterns and all these kind of things and e and deduce from this assessment that I had a estrogen dominance and the course of that was my lifestyles, the kind of...

...food that I was eating, and I haven't given that any for whatsoever. I've been to see a consultant at the hospital and, as far as I can stand, you know, you've got a fine cause you're at this particular age, you're not going to have any more children, so you might as well. Would you never have a his direct to me, and that horrified me. I thought no way was I going to have a direct to me. And so where I found out that a lot of estrogen dominant and be caused by the type of feeds you're eating, and at the time I die was pretty much processed foods and you know, and not really having a regular eating pattern. And so we had it. Did the assessment any recommend that? I did this the talks where I just had a plant it's diet, I did the juice cleanse, I kept, you know, eight organic foods and and lots of wholesome meals. So I really kind of dedicated that period of my life to really review what I was eating and look at my lifestyle. And over the months the fibroids stopped being and they were beginning to shrink slightly. And so for a number of years I kept on with that and everything was great. But I'm the kind of person I come for eat very if I'm feeling frustrated, irritated, tired, said whatever, I'm going straight to the to the PHRAEZER, the ice creams coming out and down into the cupboard, the chips, as you call them. We call them crisps here, but come out a chocolate, whine whatever. Oh, yeah, in the way. Yes, and then I want to go into what my comfort food, my Burgers, my fish, and see the boy to play, play for Nandos, all these things. So I went back to my poor eating habits. So when I start to transfers transition into menopause by symptoms, we really horrific. The night sweats really bad, the headaches were really bad, the irritability, the weight gain, all of those things that were really bad, and so I started to kind of research. I went online and looked into many pause looked at the estrogen and the fluctuation with the testosterone and so on, and the desterone, and then I reflected back or when I was perryment a pause and the advice that I was given by the naturopath. I then started looking further into it and I thought, well, I need to go back to eating healthier and trying to find foods that would help to balance my hormones, make sure that add more, a meager three foods and more foods with magnesium and that kind of things, and making sure I'll get my minerals and so forth. And then I went off to study as a natural chef and on them this course, I learned to buy, creating foods that support and promote health and creating thoroughpauty menus, and I kind of focus a lot on almonds. I also trained because I also became interested in eastern philosophy and ancient philosophies and energy, eating, healing and that kind of thing. So I spottage reflex ology. So I'm a trained reflex onlog just as well. And as I was talking to women about what I had learned, I found at the time that they are. A lot of them were as ignorant as I was, but in the negative way. They just didn't know. And so basically I decided, you know, I read a book just able on the menopause and I so happy as much with a content who was...

...kind of technical and very comprehensive. I just thought, you know, women like myself. For me personally, I just want something that's easy to read, something that straight to the point, tells you what it is't apply. I've got lots of practical tips in there, got recipes in there for the menopause also. I've also got things about cleansing and detoxing, a different kind of things you can do. But I just think if you're going to look at your health, you really need to make sure that before you start any new diet or detoxing, you really do need to make sure that your strengthen your organs, you make sure that you're eating protect your foods for your liver. You have like a little bit, you know, a little spring clean inside first and one see have cleanse your all. When you know your liver and your kidneys and everything, you know you're digestive, track your clends out parasites all those kind of things. Then you can then look at introducing wholesome foods health if because then your body's going to absorb it or you're going to really take the supplements, your herbs, you're going to feel a lot better about yourself, you're going to do good inside and out, and that's why I basically wrote the book, is that anybody, event you know there's goings at any stage of menopause, can pick it up and just say to know what I fantacy. I think this meal to today, because this was going to do this for me. They also wanted to challenge some of the myths of menopause as well, because I was very, very, as I mentioned, when I started out, disappointed. I was about societies and prejudices and this around menopause. So I talk a bit about that in my book also, and also about reinventing yourself, if you so wish. All making sure that this is a new phase, as a natural phases, a new chattering your life, and it's time for you to be self, for the focus primarily on you, and to start looking this, letting go of patterns that no longer serve you, looking at self, limiting beliefs that you may have, looking at emotions that may be holding you back. We all have pressed emotions from child and negative experience as we journey through our adult lives, and it's looking at how you can, in essence of an emotional detoped lends yourself to free yourself with all the those emotions and then from there look at the kind of things that you feel passionate about, the kind of things that you want to create in this new chatter of your life to give yourself bigger and happiness and enjoy in your life and to start you on your new journey. So I talked a lot about that in my book. But then the journey of self and self discovery was what sparked my interesting coaching women. So the book came first and then the coaching was about two years, about a year you and a half ago, because I have the book was published in two thousand and eighteen, so it's still relatively new in terms of its content. And the coaching practice was recent because I found that I was giving a lot of advice and guidance to people and trying to get them at the door drums and the walking around with their head down. Some of them not, you know, not really clearly care for that. You know how they look, and so I ended up kind of coaching a lot of women and others thought, well, I studied, I just a lot of personal development stuff myself and I thought a lot of these techniques that I've learned I can help women to to, you know, create a new lifestyle for themselves. And if I was about themselves and to create a life, I would love so I'm very much about champlating women as they're in Meno pals and yeah, that I love that. I love that so much. And you know, when you were talking about the the cleans I have a little personal story where I can definitely attest to the, you know, the validity of cleansing. I was...

...having some medical issues and I'd gone to my doctor, and I see a functional medicine doctor, and she said, you know, I'm concerned about some of these lab results. I want to refer you to an oncologist that specializes in cancers of the blood and of course I was very scared, like anybody would be, and she said, I you know, I want you to you know, she gave me some materials to read over and she said, I really want you to start on this diet and I said, well, you know what, I will, but I've already enrolled in a program. This was very late December and I'd already been rolled in a program to start January one to do a thirty day cleanse. So you had to you know, you had to eat very clean you gave up coffee and alcohol and, you know, it was a taking a lot of it was doing like shakes where you taken a lot of vitamins and supplements and it was just a very intensive program and I think that, yeah, I started January first and my lab work was scheduled probably like six weeks out from that, my repeat that work, to going to see the blood oncologist and by the time I had gone through that cleanse, two weeks later, gone to see the doctor and had my blood work. He said my blood work was totally normal and he had no concerns. Fantastic. That's isn't that amazing? And so every year, once a year now, I do a cleanse because I don't know if people are aware how taxed the liver is in what a human job that the liver has in our body. And Yeah, I think you know, I'm I subscribe to the theory that we need to cleanse it at least once a year or so. I love that. You're all about the nutrition and I'm excited to read your book and I was thinking why you were talking about it. We have a private facebook community for this podcast and I the it's not going to air. Your podcast episode is not going to air for several weeks, but I am going to the first woman that goes into the facebook community and talks about your book, I am going to gift that to that person. So I am excited about your book. Can't want to read it. Wonderful US excellent idea. Tire. Yeah, maybe, do. Maybe, do you know, I do get to read exciting talk about, you know, the impact of of you know, the western Diet and a lot of it just really include a lot of fruit and vegetables on here. is getting better now, but yeah, I really years, you know, a lot of our foods were all well on healthy facts that are high in at high sugar. Yeah, and then if their processed, they they're coming in a packet or in a you know, in the freezer. You know, they add a lot of salt and sugar to improve the flavors and then you've got an artificial ingredients and then, you know, we wonder why we have a lot of people with, you know, obesity or relating heart disease, energies of those kind of things, because a lot of it it's all the artificial ingredients that they put in the food. And then if you think about the meats as well, yeah, I mean, you know, the antibiotics and the hormones in the meat that we eat, and you can't cook them out right once you know you're having your lovely you know, you can stay cool, lamb, whatever you eating meal, if it's not grass fed or organic, then you're consuming all of those antibarctics and almonds in your body and that's going to disrupt your hormones as well. Because you look at a lot of the the younger girls nowadays, a lot of them they're going into early puberty, you know, yeah, because you're thinking all them are bigger than me and you look very early. Yeah, and it's all that excessive and animals and that they're having in their foods and the dairy foods that those D so, you know, and they left to look at the impact of cosmetics and cleaning products. Do all these things are endocrine as well. So we really...

...need to particularly as we enter into Menopud really need to take stop and just say, hold on, what can I get? What can I buy that's organic? What can I buy that's grass fed? What can buy that? You know, the cleaning products? You know, even has. Can I help myself? Cosmetics? Yes, you know, we've got off. You know, lots of companies now that you know they're really good at providing cosmetics that don't have any you know, animal products seen or don't have any artificial things in that natural kind of cosmetic. So we can look at things like that as well, you know. So there's a lot we can do. There's lot out there. Now, when if we just kind of just pay stop and think, okay, let me just reset this, yeah, and do a lot of reading around this, and then, you know, you can start to make these changes. And within time? Does that happen overnight? I always talking people, you know, don't expect to be taking your you know, the herbs that I recommend and then see change within a week or two. It take you can take months. You know, it's a slow process, but it's a long term process and that's what you want and I always say. I always say the people that I coach, you know, don't don't try to make too many changes at once. He's into it. Make one change at the time and get used to that as a new habit. You know, takes twenty one days to develop a new habit. Let's just change things slowly, because those are the things that are going to stick. You can't change every you can't turn your life upside down and one day and expect it to stick. You're just going to go right back to your obits. You know, that's well, that's what happened to me. I mentioned earlier in our conversation that you know when I've gone through Paramna palls and I saw the natural path consultant and I was like, Yay, you know got it guy. AM and empty the frage and the covers, give away everything, throw away what needed to be thrown away, and I was there, you know, fill it up my card my friend, with all buddy foods and you know, I got all these spilina powders and wheat grass and all these wonderful things. You know, are so happy as they're taking pictures of my cupboards and place making facebook say yeah, look at me Le and beyond. It last very long because I've rushed into it. You know, I could have done as you mentioned. You know, you take small, incremental steps. That fine, you know, swapping my my coffee, maybe sort of having six cups of coffee a day. Maybe I could have three or four enough and pain. He's inspead. You know, little things like that I could have done. But no, not Lena. Lena went all in brain and fell all back out not too long after us. So definitely a great a hundred percent. I yeah, thank you, and I think that you give a lot of really good tips on instagram. So would you share with everybody where they can find you on instagram? Yes, I am. I instagram page whhos connect on the school to which is to own on the school source. Yeah, finally, her follow her sons. Yes, yeah, I have to use the onder school because I was somebody else with connect to source. So I to use the Ondo Score in there to ex so but I size my company as well. My Come my coaching companies is connect source. Okay, it's registered. It's a registered company, but unfortunately online a lot of the people they have to share different names. But mine is a registered company. Right. So also share the name of your book and, like I said, I'm going to put all of this in our show notes so people can find it there. But tell us then, interesting. So the book is called change is coming and I love that you talk about Andre Pause in there. So women and your yes, yeah, I really enjoy your post about that as well, because that was not something that was after. I had heard the word a couple of times, but...

...once I saw it on your instagram I started researching a little more. So yeah, definitely something I think women should be aware for their husband's because the after not get out on their own. We all know that. Not Fin and Tim quite on is a lot of them find it kind of funny, you know, again, same as the men of walls. You Know It's a myth, you know, something to laugh about. But no, you know, some men can get really ill. So they do need to look at it. I mean it's different to the menopause, whereby not every man's going to go through and rails, but we know every woman's going to go through. If every women, sorry, is going to go through many pause. So and that's where the different, different lives really and then a pause is so well characterized also, whereas the under pause isn't, but things are slowly coming out, which is good. that. Yes, yeah, men need to be a they do. You need to look after the help they do. You need to research. I for sure. For sure, and you know what, I've enjoyed our time so much today. The net. I do want you to end our show today with something I saw on your instagram that I just loved so much, and you said that speak your truth, but sprinkle it was love. Tell me what that means. Yes, and that was to do with when menopause basically is said, and people may not believing, somebody some day that as you go through the change, you become less tolerant and you can be quite abrupt or quite blunt the things that you say to people. Is just some research out there. That's why I said something. You can take that with a pinch of salt, right. Some wo they can be overly excited if it's they end quite happy to say. However, they want to say things and could hurt other people's feelings. So the reason why I put that poster was to acknowledge that some women may go through that as as they transition into menopause or what's doing the menopause, and it's just that if you do to speak to somebody about something that concerns you or something that doesn't look right to you, and it's us to you know all, they've done something, rather than shy away speech your trees, tell them how you feel, but this big, gentle with how you with your delivery so as not to cause upset or hurt the other person's feelings or make them feel ill towards you. So it's basically a bad sprint. Clean things with love and love. Yeah, they did say you win more people with sugar than you do with it. Then they go with it. Sold much act sure of the saying. Yeah, I know it's when you're talking about it either, but yeah, yeah, great, it's about. Yes, attract more flies with honey. That I can't remember either, but well, there is, there is quite, there's it was quite a few. Yeah, I know. Yeah, that's what I meant. It's one of those ones. Yes, yes, yes, thank you again so much for joining a today and thank you for all your wisdom sharing with all the listeners, and I can't wait to see you a get online. Yeah, fantastic, and I've really enjoyed our time together. So I thank you for advising me and hopefully we continue to stay connected. Let's grow this side. We've definitely global empowered, we moved network. That's what we need, all channel, all championing the metal falls. That's what we need to have. Absolutely yes, okay, take care of line. You too, have a beautiful rest of fo day. All the best of thank you so much for joining me. I hope you enjoyed today's conversation as much as I did. If you'd like to continue the conversation, come on over and join our private facebook group what women want today, and love to hang out with you some more...

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