What Women Want Today
What Women Want Today

Episode 82 · 2 months ago

Exploring the Happiness Puzzle - Part 1


In today's episode Part 1 of the series we are diving into the elements of Eudemonic happiness

  • Environmental Mastery
  • Positive Relations
  • Self-Acceptance
  • Purpose in Life
  • Autonomy     

This series kicks off in today's episode with Personal Growth

You will hear the areas of impact in personal growth and I will share with you four things you can do to take your personal growth to the next level.

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Hello and welcome to what women want today podcast. You might be asking yourself right about now. Well, what do women want? I mean we're pretty complex creatures, right. Well, I think we want it all, and I'm here to explore it with you. My name is Terry Kellum's I'm your host. Go grab your favorite beverage, I've already got my glass of wine, and let's get started. Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the what women want today podcast. I am your host and coach for Midlife women who struggle to find meaning and fulfillment in Midlife. You know, a couple of weeks ago, on episode eighty, which I was titled Are we happy yet, I explored the idea of the two types of happiness that experts say that we experience, which is hadonic and Odemonic, and since the episode is aired, I have talked about this subject more than I ever imagined I would. I want to revisit the six elements the expert identified as crucial to sustaining Udeman and CAP eness. Remember that hedonic happiness is easily accessed but doesn't necessarily...

...last. If we're going to choose happiness as our guiding emotion, we need a demonic happiness for sustainability. So those elements are personal growth, environmental mastery, positive relations, self acceptance, purpose in life and autonomy. So today's part one of the series where I'm going to dive into each one of these elements. We're gonna start with personal growth. Personal growth has been a value of mine for a long time, but I'll be honest here. It took really quite a while for me to realize that personal growth isn't a passive thing. It's for me at that point in life, it was kind of like information in an information out. When you hear the expression that knowledge is power, it's not true. We can know a lot of things, but if...

...we don't know how to apply them and put them into action, well then we just know a lot of things. Application of the knowledge is power. So several years back I managed a team that gave the employees an opportunity to anonymously give feedback once year to their leadership, and one of the managers put on their survey talking about me. She reads a lot of books but she really doesn't do anything with what she learns. Ouch ouch out. It was great feedback, even if at the time it was really hard to hear. It was exactly what propelled me to hire a coach and get me on the right track from my personal growth journey. I know I'm not alone in my desire to grow personally. The data says that Americans are spending an estimated nine point nine billion dollars annually on self improvement products, which sounds pretty impressive until you compare it with what we're spending on music and film, which coming in... a whopping sixty one billion dollars combined, or the beauty industry at a huge two and sixty five billion annually. So what those numbers indicate to me is that we are really a society it leans heavily on Hadonic happiness. I wonder what we spend on dining out each year. But I'm degressing. If we go back to what we learned, music, film and beauty does not show up in our list of things that bring the lasting happiness that we've been talking about. Personal growth has impacts on things other than happiness. Studies show that the impact of impacts of personal growth reach our relationships, our stress levels, our health, our productivity, the amount of income were able to earn, our parenting and our resilience, just to name a few. So if you've never done any kind of personal development, this might be a good place to start. What kind of feedback, whether it's intentional, like the surveys...

...that my employees were able to feel feel about me, or unintentional, just everyday things that you're hearing repetitively, there are no shortage of topics to choose from them. Where you get started? There's time management and productivity and habits and vulnerability and meditation and influence. Now I know people who honestly think they are good communicators, that are just really good at talking. To be a good communicator, you should really focus on two things. Your ears. Okay, I'm kind of kidding, but I'm kind of not really. If you are doing a lot of talking but the responses that you're getting don't match, you probably need to focus more on developing your listening skills. Everyone listening today has influence in their environment. How you choose to influence will come directly from your level of personal growth. If you are like me and you've been working on personal growth for a while and you heard what my manager had to say...

...about me and you thought, oh no, that could be me too. And you don't know where to go next. Go to your bookshelf, go to your audible library, your podcast list. Do you see anything themes amongst those? Have you read the books, listen to the podcast and you still feel like you're not quite there? I'm gonna give you four things today that you can do to take your personal growth to next level, and this includes the novice personal growth person just starting out. So it doesn't matter where you're learning comes from, whether it's PODCAST, book, Ted Talks, Youtube, instagram, your wise aunt betty, having a notebook, a separate notebook from your journal, to write down your thoughts after reading whatever it is you decide. You can read ten pages, you can listen for ten minutes Um, whatever you're committed to do, so that you have a chance to go back and reflect on what you learned and how you can apply it. Those should be the questions that you ask yourself at the end of your learning. What did I learn and how can I apply this? This should be a separate...

...entry from your journal, because you actually want to go back and read it again and see if you want to add anything to it after you've had a little bit of time in between the listening and the writing, and maybe you want to relisten or reread it again just to make sure that you're ready to move on to the next section. Really grasp the concepts before you move on. Okay, the next one an accountability partner. Do you have a coworker, a friend or family member who is also interested in growth? You can set up a time, whether it's once a week or whatever fits into your your lives, to discuss these ideas together. You know what I find when you're talking to a group of people, you know there's there's your your voice inside your head, your thoughts, your experiences, that when you read something or taken information, you're applying everything about your life into that and that's exactly what the other person is doing as well. So when you come together and... share your ideas, you're going to come from different perspectives. They're going to pick up on things that maybe you didn't and vice versa. So I love the idea of an accountability partner. Okay. The next one, join a group, a growth group, and if you can't find one, create one. When I lived in Phoenix you could find a group on MEETUP DOT COM for a ton of things you might be interested in from learning to invest in real estate, Um, a creative writing group or even a hiking group. So, if you can't find a growth group, and there's not one already existing on meetup dot com, create a new one. You'll be surprised at how many like minded people there are out there in the world. Okay, my last one. Hire a coach. A coach can be very effective in helping you uncover areas where growth is needed and help move you towards your goals. Okay, friend, our time together has come to an end for today. They you so much for being here with me. I look forward... the next five topics in this series and until next time we're together, remember to take good care of you. Hey, friend, I hope you enjoyed our time together today and found the information valuable. Remember, you are officially invited to join our facebook group and private group. I will put the links in today's show notes. If you are interested in exploring coaching, you can email me at Terry t e R R I and Dot Callum's K E L L U M S at Gmail Dot com, or private message me on facebook or instagram. If you're enjoying the content of the PODCAST, remember to share with a friend or on social media. It really does help other women find the PODCAST, and if you have yet to leave a rating and review, you can do that on your favorite platform. Okay, remember you are not alone. You are worthy of love and a fulfilled life. Now it's time to go after it.

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