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Episode 49 · 10 months ago

Resolutions and Goals 2022

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Happy New Year!

Have you decided the kind of year 2022 will be for you?

In today's episode we are talking about Resolutions, Goals and Adopting a WORD OF THE YEAR.

Which camp do you fall into?

I've got some tips and encouragment for you today! It doesn't matter if you've already picked something and it is already starting to fade. You can begin again today!

If you need help email me @ terri@terrikellums.com and put FREE CALL in the subject line. I'm offering a free 30 minute call to see if I can help you in your pursuit of a fabulous 2022!

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Hello and welcome to what women on today podcast. You might be asking yourself right about now. Well, what do women want? I mean we're pretty complex creatures right. Well, I think we want it all, and I'm here to explore with you. My name is Terry Kellums. I'm your host. Go grab your favorite beverage, I've already got my glass of wine, and let's get started. Hello, and welcome back to another episode at though what women want today podcast. This is your host, Terry Kellums. Even though this is the second episode of the year, I haven't properly wished you a happy New Year for two thousand and twenty two. My Two thousand and twenty one ended very unexpectedly and a little rough, as my husband and I became very sick right before Christmas, and even though I'm probably mostly recovered, I still have that lingering exhaustion that kind of just put me down for the...

...whole holiday season. But here we are together and it's the start of a brand new year and I want to ask you this question today. Have you decided what kind of year you want to have? During last week's episode I spent some time with James and Clare Davis talking about many topics that have, like US midlifers. But one of the things that has stuck with me since my conversation with them is that James Clear and I all agree that in order to make lasting change, you have to know your why and you have to be strongly connected to it. So we're going to spend a little time together diving into some of the thought processes that we all seem to go through each January. Maybe you're like my friend Diana Bryant from revive your midlife marriage podcast. Maybe you spend time at the end of each year reflecting back on the year and asking yourself how you did on some of those goals. I know a few people that do that with our businesses as well, and there's an...

...exercise in the corporate world that we used to do called stop, start, continue that can easily be adapted to your own business or even some of the things you want to accomplish personally and perhaps even family goals. What you do is simply look at a habit or practice in you ask yourself, is this something that's serving me? If not, it would land in the Stop Category. Maybe you've identified a new habit that you want to start implementing in your life, and there are probably a few things that will land in the continued column. So they could look something like this. Let's say I want to go on a vacation to Europe this year, but it's not in my current budget. If I stop dining out three times a week and shift to just once per week, I could say fifty dollars per week. That's four hundred dollars per month. To further get control of my budget, I could start...

...to log all my expenses in a notebook and look at patterns and remove frivolous things from my spending habits. And finally, I'm a reader and I don't plan to give that up anytime soon, so I will continue to read books I love, but I could also get some of them from the library or reach out to some of my friends that I know are also readers and we could arrange to do a book swap every couple of months. However you choose to go about it, at the end of the year or at the beginning. It's a very common practice for people to set resolutions. They've resolved that this is the year they are finally going to do that thing, and for the past few years I've heard people talking about adopting a word for the year we'd like my friend has picked. She picked the word intentional, and I like the thought behind this word, because the past couple of years, but...

...like we spent more time reacting to things going on in the world rather than responding. When you pick a word like intentional, it means you're going to be much more deliberate in choosing your activities, intentional about how you spend your time, money and resources. So if you're not much of a resolution setter, I know I'm not really. Maybe you're more of a goal setter or you've picked your word for the year already. Well, I have a couple of things I want to encourage you with today. The first one is the one I mentioned earlier. Make sure you have a really strong why connected to it. It must be something that will keep you moving forward and motivated to continue well into spring, summer, fall and winter. You may have to ask yourself some questions. What will it mean to me if I accomplish this? Does this impact something bigger than me? Well, I need outside support...

...to encourage me or hold me accountable. And the second thing is you can you can apply this to almost anything. But I'll use a common one that we can probably at least all relate to. Let's save set of resolution to lose weight this year. That's a pretty common one, whether it's a substantial amount or that nagging ten to fifteen pounds you've been talking about for a while. Here's what I want you to keep in mind. The goal of losing weight is very ambiguous. Is it for vanity reasons, and I'm not judging, I know I've gained about twelve pounds of the last couple of years and it is not welcome to stay, or did you pick losing weight for health reasons? I know the driving force behind my desire to be a healthy weight has many facets. I want to be healthy in the stage of life because being unhealthy is a distraction from living the kind of life I want to live.

Unhealthy people are a bit more challenged when it comes to traveling the world, which is something mighta being I decided we want to do for the first ten years after we retire. Maybe it's a combination of both of those things. When we are healthy and fit, we have a stronger zest for life, and I know that's the kind of life I want to live. Here's the thing I want to draw your attention to, and stick with me here, because when I say this you might think I'm a little off my rocker. But having a goal of losing ten to fifteen pounds, or any other number for that matter, it's not about the number on the scale. It's not. Trust me, friend, here is what it's about. It's about moving your body, gaining strength, stamina, having strong muscle and joints. It's about choosing healthy food options that don't cause inflammation to your body and work...

...against your goals. It's about making decisions day in and day out that make you feel so proud of yourself. Goals are not about what happens at the end. It's not about the ten, fifteen or more pounds. It's about who you are becoming each day along the way. Do you feel about yourself? The Way? It changes how you talk to yourself and changes what you say about yourself. This, my friend, is why we set goals, resolutions and adopt the words like intention. So the date this airs is already the eleventh of January, two thousand and twenty two, but it's not too late to modify, change or completely start from scratch. On what you want this year to look like. Be sure to ask yourself the right questions. Write down your goal, resolution or word of the year where you can see it every day. Sometimes you have to start at the end and work your...

...way back to the beginning when trying to accomplish goals, but you need a good, solid vision and a why in order to be successfully at it. Now I like to encourage my coaching clients to daydream, and I've also heard it called vision mapping. It can be very useful to create your own little mind movie with as much detail as you can possibly conjure up. What does it look like, smell like? WHO's with you? How will you feel? What will you have to change in order to get there? What challenges might you face, and how will you learn from setbacks? Don't forget to figure out how you're going to celebrate your victory. Knowing the answers to questions like these will strongly connect you. It will give you the sense of ownership that ties you to the process. If this seems very appealing to you,...

...but you just feel overwhelmed at where to start, send me an email. We can set up time to have a free call see if working together might be the boost you need to move forward. You can email me at Terry at Terry Callum'Scom and I'll put that in the show notes. You'll have easy access to it. Just remember to put the words free call in the subject lines so that your email stands out. And I want to leave you with a quote today from a hum and Dolly and he said impossible is just a word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact, it's an opinion. I just love that quote. I want to thank you so much for being here with me today and I look forward to the next time we can spend more time together. Please remember...

...to take good care of you. Thank you so much for joining me. I hope you enjoyed today's conversation as much as I did. If you'd like to continue the conversation, come on over and join our private facebook group what women want today, and love to hang out with you some more there. Any resources mentioned in today's episode will be in the show notes. You can find me on facebook and Instagram at what women want to day, podcast or visit my website at what women want to daycom please remember to subscribe, download and share. Leave me a review. It helps other amazing women find the show and become a member of our community. One last thing for you today. You are not alone. You are worthy of love and a fulfilled life. Now it's time to go after it.

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